The Surrendered Wife - A Practical Guide For Finding Intimacy, Peace & Passion With A Man
by Laura Doyle

in this day and age, where countless women scream for gender equality, i'm pretty sure the title of this book brings a lot of scorns from many ladies.

not from me though, because i am never a feminist. i believe that there are many things that women can do as well as men. in fact, in some areas, women outshine men. but i strongly feel that both men and women have certain roles to play in life and many of these roles are different. in this sense, men and women will never be equal. frankly speakly, i will never want to be an equal with my husband! why? because i prefer to be a 小女人 and be taken care of by my husband.

does being a 小女人 means that one loses her own self, her identity? not necessarily so. and this book teaches all ladies out there, regardless whether you and your man are dating or married, to control your partner less because controlling men is often the cause of the start of resentment. and when little resentment builds up over time, the relationship cracks and breaks.

i think us girls are often guilty of controlling our men. now and then we say to them: "why did you do this? you should have done it that way!" or "i told you so! you didn't believe me." or "that was a lousy decision!". it's fine if we do it once or twice. it's fine if we do it with a joking tone. but if we go overboard with such comments, men can react very negatively. put it this way, if the men did that to us frequently, we will be feeling resentful as well.

so what should we do? just keep quiet and allow the men to do whatever they want, even if the things they are doing is wrong? just be a plain bimbo?

nah, this book teaches us ladies to control the men less, criticise the men less and talk to them in a nice tone. you can still put your point across to them, but in a less hurtful or harmful way. at the end of the day, there will be less quarrels, and men will be more appreciative of the women who have been supporting them in their actions and decisions.

it's a win-win situation, don't you think?

again, this is not a book that degrades women to be slaves or mindless souls. this book simply captures the fact that most men have certain egos, and if we continue to crush their ego, the relationship will never work out. this book reminds us that once we 'surrender' some of the control to men, the relationship will move to the next stage.

phyllis introduced this book to me like more than 5 years ago? frankly speaking, i never finished reading the book. but that is simply due to plain laziness on my part. even so, whatever i have read left a very deep impression on me. i don't deny that i have not been conciously practising what the book teaches but when the going gets tough, i do remind myself that i should take a step back and be more 'surrendered'. when i got closer with sheena, i felt she needed the book. not that she has any issues in her relationship but knowing how much she loves jackson, i'm pretty sure that the good stuff in this book will enlighten her and bring their relationship even further. so far, i think it is working. yeah!

due to the horrible sounding title, i think this book is only for ladies who really love their other half. i doubt if a girl who has any resentment for her boyfriend/husband will connect with the book at all.

i love my man. so i think i should go pick up this book for myself soon!
(hahaha... actually it is just an excuse to shop and spend money again!)

and oh yes, after so much hard-sell, all of you girls must go get the book ok!
and men, pls... you are prohibited from reading this. give us girls a chance to do our part to improve the relationship. don't spoil it for us by reading it yourself!

the surrendered wife can be found in major bookstores. i have seen copies in popular, borders and kinokuniya. a preview of the book can be found here. tell me what you think after reading!

Mark Twain

I wonder if the authors that are thought of as "great" or "inspirational" ever thought their words and work would be used as often and as much as they are today? That they would be put under the microscope, like the authors they were studying. LOL ~ Probably not.

around 300 metres away from a flight of stairs, i turned around to see someone trying to help my wheelchair bound mummy down the stairs. in a split second, whoever it was tipped the wheelchair over too much, and i saw my mum being flung out of the wheelchair and tumbling down the stairs helplessly. when she reached the floor landing, she was rolling around uncontrollably in pain. i find myself running towards her and screaming "mummy".

and as how my running dreams usually are, the legs felt like stone and each step was painfully slow.

suddenly, i realised that i was dreaming (while still in my dream), and much as i usually enjoyed dreams of my mummy, i forced myself to wake up from this bad dream.

and i was successful.
woke up with a pounding heart and couldn't get back to sleep after that.
mummy has suffered enough. she shouldn't be suffering in my dreams.

我想妳，妳在哪里？

Doesn't every young girl dream of being a ballerina? In A Company Of Swans, to Harriet, it means everything to dance. Those of you who find the art of ballet boring, you wont be disappointed because there is a lot of thought-provoking messages and it tells the hardships of one girl from Cambridge.

Harriet is the daughter of a university professor, but her life is run by his sister Louisa and her gang.  When a famous man comes to her dance school and wants HER to join his copse de ballet on a trip to the Amazon, she is overwhelmed. This is NOT suitable behaviour for an upright Cambridge girl and she is not allowed to go.

When she visits Stavely home and meets young Henry, she finds the inspiration to go and join the ballet. On her trip to the Amazon she discovers more about herself, romance and dance.

I'd give this book **** because although I absolutely loved it, the ending could have been BIGGER!!! It ended on rather a dull note. A great read for anyone who loves thinking, dance or romance.

Eilidh

Lyrics to Bon Jovi's song, It's My Life

When this song first came out, I was not a fan of it, mostly because I never knew the words and could only hear it when Radio Disney came in on my radio in my 1981 Oldsmobile Delta 88 Royale!  Not a good introduction to the song if you ask me.  However over Memorial Day weekend 2003 some friends and I went to hear a Bon Jovi Tribute band called Slippery When Wet at a bar south of Schaumburg.  Needless to say, they were awesome and I immediately fell in love with the band and this song.  Of course I came home and went searching on the internet to download it, I liked it so much.  It wouldn't begin to mean so much to me until much later. 

It's kind of funny how you go through stages of liking, or not liking, a particular song.  There have been several songs that I have started out absolutely hating and usually end up either absolutely loving it, or being able to tolerate it on a semi-regular basis.  This song is one of them, I didn't have much use for it until the live version I heard.  After that I really liked the song for itself.  Eventually something happened and the message of the song finally jumped out at me and of course now it's becoming a post for me!

How true are the words in the chorus?  Have you taken the time to let them sink in so that you can find your own personal meaning in them?  It is your LIFE, it is NOW or NEVER, you are not going to LIVE FOREVER,  and you SHOULD live while you are alive!  It may not always be apparent to each of us, but we are in control of our lives, especially how we react to what is going on in our life!  I am just starting to understand this concept and the more I hear the song, the more it is getting pounded into my brain!!  How I react to things is completely under my own control, it is also up to me to figure out what to do with what happens and how to learn from it.  All of a sudden I am energized to be experiencing this kind of knowledge.  It really is a simple idea and can be done very easily.  The problem is that we sabotage ourselves with roadblocks.  We keep telling ourselves that everything is so much more difficult than it really is.  Nothing is as hard as it seems, especially if you have the will to persevere!

The second half of the chorus is pretty meaningful and insightful too.  You only get this life, that's it, no second take, there is no stunt double, we are not cats, THIS IS IT!  Frank Sinatra sang that he did it his way, Bon Jovi agrees with him.  If you follow your heart and listen to it, you usually end up making the right decision and there is no downfall to doing it your way.  You can get the advice and suggestions from as many people as you want, as you think you need.  In the end it has to come from you, in your own way and in your own time! 

Recently I have been having epiphany after epiphany and let me tell you, they have opened my eyes to so many things that were right in front of me but I couldn't see because I was looking too hard.  I am starting to realize that at 30 years old, I have my entire life ahead of me and if I want certain goals and dreams to come to fruition, then I need to take control of my actions and be held responsible for the things that I do.  It's taken me a long time to get here and I'm sure there are a lot more lessons in life that I need to and will learn along the way, but they are looking a lot less scary now!  All I really have to do is believe that I can and that in turn will help me do it!  At the risk of sounding a little too cliche', today is the first day of the rest of my life!  Carpe Diem!

Driving home after the completed training I was wondering why was I happy like a child about not having to work for the next two months. I am self employed, nobody is bossing me around, I do what I like, I find my work pretty meaningful and am moving towards even more meaningful realms… And I actually do enjoy being in open, sincere contact with people and I get plenty of that in my work.

So yes, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with my work, it is just the amount of it that is draining me. I guess everything can turn upside down if one is not careful with the quantity. So the sincere and meaningful contact I am enjoying is slowly turning into a burden, leaving me with a feeling that I cannot be in the middle of attention anymore, being expected to solve problems and have the perfect answers and to lead and initiate and motivate and inspire… Turning me into an antisocial animal, wanting to just be alone or with my kids and wife. And nobody else.

This is why today was not only the beginning of my holidays, but also the beginning of the rest of my life in which I will not work that much anymore. I have made a firm decision and so far I am performing well; my calendar for the Autumn and Winter looks pretty humane and the future is bright.

Anyway, it was the perfect evening to have some fire going in the backyard with my daughter and chat about life, fish and nearly everything.

This small novel is one of John Boyne's greatest works. Set in WWII  it revolves around a small 9 - yeard old noy called Bruno in Berlin , Germany. He knows little of the war. He hears the myths of savage westerners and ruthless battleships , and the damage that has been dealt during the war. He also thinks that the character he knows only as The Fury will make things better. He looks up to his father , who works closely with the fury. Soon he and his  family are forced to move to the german countryside with his father's work. Bruno is forced to leave his friends behind and knows not the reason why.

He soon adapts to life in the country. The book seems to set itself up forever , but what it lacks in initial tension and action it makes up for with raw writing talent. He meets several servants in his house , and becomes suspicous as he sees his father's workers treating the servants badly. He is allowed out to explore , and soon comes across a fence , with a boy wearing striped pyjamas on the other side. The two boys soon talk and befriend eachother , and Bruno soon makes plans to cross the fence , even after his friend's fierce refusal , saying it is horrible and dirty. But Bruno wants to assist in family issues , and soon gets his wish.

This book is a tragic and compelling reminder of the raw brutality of the holocaust , and a shocking reminiscence of the Nazi regime. It compiles brilliantly in an epic war novel , examining the more heartrending and less action side of the second world war. It is a book that is imprinted on my brain forever , and has true meaning. If any book shows how mutliated human nature can become , it is this one.

I strongly reccomend this book if you have any reading passion or interest in WWII

*****

Hoping you enjoyed this review ,

Callum :)

I liked how you presented this excerpt, and had them look for different things in the Second Treatise. That was good.

The compliments were never frequent, but by April, they were all I got. There's no way to put me off like a steady diet of nothing but compliments.

Compliments seem like the sweet thing to do --- who likes pessimists, anyway? --- but they have to be tempered with some fiber, some meaningful substance. Compliments bolster the ego, but after that cotton candy feeling wears off, I'm left with nothing but the memory of warmth.

Not that compliments aren't intoxicating. I misinterpreted my master teacher's rationale for all the compliments, thinking: Gee, maybe I'm getting really good at this.

That wasn't it at all. After confronting her about it, we talked our way to this:

It's just that every time I tell you something, you try to explain yourself. You never listen to me. You even argue with me about every little thing. I just got tired of it, and I gave up trying.

Then I argued with her about every little thing she said.

My family relishes spirited argument, so I was hardly writing you off. If I argue about it, that means I am listening to what you say. If I argue about it, that means I care about what you say. I requested to have you as my master teacher because I knew you were tough on your student teachers --- I wouldn't have it any other way.

Without your criticism, I laid back. I got lazy. I became laissez-faire attitude toward my student teaching, come what may.

Student teaching was never quite the same, in that light. That's what cotton candy compliments will do to you, so think about that next time you have the urge to put politeness over honesty.

Cotton candy compliments are why a trainwreck show like American Idol can exist --- we get so caught up in all the nice things others say about us that we go off and embarrass ourselves, sometimes on national television. We need the unpleasant fiber, the "Really, Steve. Don't go to that audition. You suck."

Even worse, sometimes we're so hopped up on compliments that we ignore the that lone, deflating voice of dissent, saying, "What do they know? Everyone else says I'm just like Freddie Mercury."

We shouldn't substitute cotton candy for fiber, however unpleasant it is. If we do, pretty soon we'll end up like Red, here: full of crap.

How this relates to students, teachers, coworkers, friends and relatives is left as an exercise to the reader.

A thing, until it is everything, is noise, and once it is everything it is silence.
~sayings about silence by Antonio Porchia, Voces, 1943, translated from Spanish by W.S. Merwin

I wash my hands of those who imagine chattering to be knowledge, silence to be ignorance, and affection to be art.
~inspirational sayings about Attitude quotes by Kahlil Gibran

In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.
~silence quotes by Martin Luther King, Jr.

Well-timed silence hath more eloquence than speech.
~famous quotes about Speaking by Martin Farquhar Tupper, Of Discretion, Proverbial Philosophy

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Of course, after Skyler's emergency "vacation" at Children's Mercy in March, we had to cancel the trip for ourselves, not knowing what our immediate future held. Now that Skyler is healthy and the whole experience feels like a weird dream, my heart hurts so badly that we are not there relaxing with our friends! I am a person that is obsessed with vacations, especially trips that involve a beautiful beach! There is no place in the world I'd rather spend my vacation time when I want to forget my worries. My husband can vouch for this - every few months I sit at the computer and price out vacations, just to see if there is something worth booking!

The worst part is the dashed hopes. The excitement of booking a trip and then looking forward to it is so much of the fun. I did that for several months, only for it to come to an unexpected, disappointing halt. And now I can't wait for these next four nights to pass, so the thought of these missed memories with our friends can start to fade. Of course I'll have to get through the initial excitement of their return and look at the photos that I would've been in, but hopefully by then it will be in the past, and I can start looking to the future.

Speaking of, I convinced Ronnie to splurge, and he agreed to let us spend our economic stimulus check on a vacation later this year! We've booked a surprisingly affordable trip to an all-inclusive resort in Puerto Vallarta, Mexico at the end of October. Let's pray for no hurricanes because that's one of the reasons rates were so good! So we do have that to look forward to, but I just want to get this would-be Cabo trip out of the way so I can look forward to that! Once those vacation dates have blended into our past, we can focus on the future!

The lesson I'm trying to learn here - there is a reason for everything, and while it may not make sense at the time, it usually becomes clear and meaningful at a later date! So there is a reason we couldn't make that fun trip with our friends. As soon as I figure it out, I'll be sure to post it here! In the meantime, send me all the motivation you can to help me get in shape for my Mexico trip with Ronnie that's just over four months away!

this simple story is to remind all of us that we sometimes take our loved ones for granted.

sometimes they may not do the exact actions or say the exact words that we hope for. but as long as they love us in their own ways, we should be thankful and love them all the same.

My husband was an engineer. Since I met him, he was always an unflappable rock in my life. I knew he always had his feet firmly planted on the ground, and it seemed that no matter what else went crazy, he would be the one constant.

 

Three years of romance, and two years of marriage later, I got tired. He was the most unromantic man I know. He never bought me flowers, he never surprised me, and nothing changed in our marriage.

 

After some time, I finally found the courage to tell him that I wanted to leave him. He just sat there, speechless. My heart froze… what kind of man was I married to that didn’t even know what to say to make me stay? 

 

After a while, he spoke, “What can I do to change your mind?”

 

“I will stay if you can give me a good answer to this question,” I replied coldly.

 

“If I asked for a flower that grew on a cliff and you knew that getting it for me means certain death, would you get it for me?”

 

His face grew troubled. “Can I give you an answer tomorrow morning?” he asked.

 

Hearing that kind of answer, my heart died. I knew that I could never be happy with a man who couldn’t even give me an answer straight away.

 

The next morning, when I woke up, he was missing. In the living room, under a warm glass of milk, was a note.

 

My eyes grew misty as I read it…

 

“Dear, I have my answer. I will never pick the flower for you if it meant certain death.  But before you leave, I hope you can give me a chance to give you my reasons….

 

You will always sit in front of the computer and type about for the whole day, but every time you will end up in tears because your formatting will always go all over the place… I need my fingers, to do the formatting for you, so your tears will become smiles.

 

You like to travel, but would always get lost… I need my eyes, so that I can bring you to the nicest places on earth.

 

Every time you leave the house, you would always forget your keys… I need my legs, so that I can run home to open the door for you.

 

You never knew how to take care of yourself… I need my hands to help you get rid of the pesky white hair you hate so much when you grow old, to trim your nails, to feed you.

 

So you see, that’s why I can’t pick the flower for you.

 

Until I find someone who loves you more than I do, I will need my body to take care of you.

 

If you accept my reasons, then open the door, where I will be waiting with your favorite muffin.”

 

With tears streaming from my eyes, I opened the door, and there he stood, with an extremely worried look on his face. He still had nothing to say, but just stood there waving the packet he had in his hand in front of me.

 

And then I knew for a fact that I will never find another man who will ever love me as much as he does. Just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to doesn’t mean that they don’t love you with all they have…

There is only one sound method of moral education. It is teaching people to think. - Everett Dean Martin

He who is the most slow in making a promise is the most faithful in the performance of it. - Jean-Jacques Rousseau

By education I mean that training in excellence from youth upward which makes a man passionately desire to be a perfect citizen, and teaches him to rule, and to obey, with justice. This is the only education which deserves the name. - Plato

Your first appearance, he said to me, is the gauge by which you will be measured; try to manage that you may go beyond yourself in after times, but beware of ever doing less. - Jean-Jacques Rousseau

Education is the movement from darkness to light. - Allan David Bloom

Every man should have a college education in order to show him how little the thing is really worth. - Ralph Waldo Emerson

According to TV Guide Winfrey's new-age spiritualism and political persuasion is jeopardizing her marketability in the media, thereby diminishing her status.

Perhaps Winfrey's longtime reign over the media is coming to an abrupt end. For so long revered as nearly a saint because of her uplifting programming, Oprah is now beginning to receive criticism for her views. It has often been said that one should not talk about their religion and politics. Oprah is defying the odds and daring to do both.

I salute her for her authenticity and boldness to express her individuality. Yet doing so is simultaneously hurting her marketability. Nevertheless on the flip side of that argument, we do well to remember that controversy does sell. Who knows the queen of TV could remake herself into an activist for worthy causes and a voice against social injustice. Nobody can dispute Oprah has done and is doing a lot of good in the world. And with such influence why shouldn't she let her voice be heard?

The New York Times says Oprah's choices are gaining skepticism and audiences are tuning out. According to Nielson Media Research, for the third straight year in a row, Oprah is experiencing a decline in audience viewers.

Research shows Oprah's program has dropped 7% of its viewers this year alone. Oprah's other projects also seem to be suffering. For example her reality show Oprah’s Big Give debuted this winter with a huge audience and beat every program on television except for American Idol, but also experienced the loss of almost a third of its audience.

Winfrey’s readership of O her magazine, which you would think to have increased with the nonstop promotion of Tolle's book, suffered a beating and loss of 10% over the last 3 years according to the Audit Bureau of Circulations.

Even Oprah's favorite and highly promoted books in her book club are suffering harsh criticism. Apparently Oprah either didn't adequately study the demographics of her viewers, or disregarded her viewers beliefs altogether. Women in the deep south who heavily watch Oprah's program are typically Christian and many supporters of Senator Hillary Clinton.  Hence Oprah has cut her own throat by alienating Christendom with her new age books and shows, while simultaneously disenchanting white women when she endorsed Barak Obama for President.

As a Christian who read "A New Earth" and found it a in meaningful book, I understand both how Oprah feels and religious folks who don't play around with their faith. Certainly not all Christians can eat the fish and spit out the bones when reading spiritual truths originating from another ideological orbit. Politically Americans aren't very tolerant or understanding either, as evidenced by the great political divide in our country between Republicans and Democrats.

I commend Oprah for being true to what she believes in and bold enough to share what she thinks will empower people to live better lives. Her intentions and motives are certainly pure. If Oprah were solely money motivated, she would not continue to promote her spiritual and political views. Yet being already established financially, Oprah is embarking upon larger more meaningful missions to change the world. O Ambassadors is just one new endeavor Oprah is partnering with Free the Children to liberate and educate kids worldwide.

Hopefully Oprah who says she is a Christian will not find problems with parents concerned about their children getting sold new-age ideas. I think Oprah is doing a great work and deserves our support. Yet at the same time we who have beliefs of our own should not be any less vocal than Oprah.

Anything worth having in life requires a sacrifice. For Oprah it is a drop in viewer ratings, book sales, and magazine distribution. Nevertheless the rewards of the sacrifice should be sufficient to warrant the losses. Often we must first be willing to lose in order to win.

It cannot be disputed that ultimately we attract what we are. We cannot please everyone and succeed. We are at our best when we are true to ourselves and transparent about it. That Oprah is and that is why we love her.

Beyond touching hearts and putting tears in our eyes, Oprah also makes people think. Now raising eyebrows and making us scratch our heads, Oprah is finding herself as she further evolves. She recently said on her program that she admits to not having enough time to truly enjoy herself.  Perhaps as Oprah becomes more present and lets go of the ambition of sustaining her empire, critics will be silenced and her true spirit will emerge in purity untainted from the labels many have tried to presumptuously give her.

Dividing audiences is not always a bad thing as even the Word of God itself divides, while exposing our hearts (see Hebrews 4:12). Although Oprah's television audience is predominately middle-aged white women who support Senator Hillary Clinton, most Americans are awaking to the reality that we need some color in the White House to truly get real and heal the homeland.

Angry criticism of new-age spiritualism and political disputes though a common message thread on the message boards from her website, Oprah will continue to transcend the accusations and come out on top as she honors the God of truth.  Love rejoices in the truth and we should do no less.

Next up for Oprah is OWN: The Oprah Winfrey Network. featuring programming that will reflect Winfrey’s vision of what she considers empowering programming.   

You can't go wrong when you touch, teach, and transform your audience.

It's not about being the queen of the media as much as it is about living a meaningful life of purpose to impact humanity.

Paul F Davis - international speaker and author

http://www.PaulFDavis.com

RevivingNations@yahoo.com

Paul F. Davis is a world-changing leadership & diversity speaker who has touched over 50 countries & 6 continents building bridges cross-culturally and empowering people throughout the earth to live their dreams!

Paul is the author of 14 books. Paul has appeared on numerous internationally broadcast radio shows from Oprah & Friends to Fox News Radio to talk about conflict resolution, peacemaking, foreign policy, and diplomacy. Playboy Radio host Tiffany Granath calls Paul an "awesome" relational coach and recommends his books on love, dating, and sexuality.

Academically outstanding Davis was trained in transformative mediation & conflict resolution (Hofstra Law School); strategic negotiations (Harvard Business School & U. of Washington); advanced interrogation (Reid & Associates founders of the polygraph); and NLP & Life Coaching (NLP & Coaching Institute of California).

Paul humorously and elegantly transforms individuals and organizations.

Paul's organization Dream-Maker Inc. builds dreams, transcends limitations, & reconciles nations.

Paul worked at Ground Zero in NYC during 9/11; helped rebuild a home at the tsunami epicenter; comforted victims of genocide in Rwanda; spoke to leaders in East Timor during the war; inspired students & monks in Myanmar; promoted peace & reconciliation in Pakistan; and has been so deep into the bush of rural Africa where villagers had never before seen a white man.

Paul empowers people to love passionately and live fearlessly.

http://www.PaulFDavis.com

At Brighthouse, an Atlanta-based innovation consulting firm, staff members get five week's vacation, AND five Your Days.  The five Your Days are free days that the staff are encouraged to use to visit someplace conductive to reflection and thinking.  No particular goal to solve anything - just what they call "blue-sky thinking."  CEO Joey Reiman believes this unstructured thinking is just as important to their success as time spent hunkered down in client meetings or looking at computer screens.

Other companies like Maddock Douglas and Google also encourage their workers to spend up to 20 percent of their work hours pursuing whatever intrigues them.

Here's a favorite book of mine that addresses this issue:  How to Think Like Leonardo da Vinci:  Seven Steps to Genius Every Day.  Few people have ever been as creative or inventive as da Vinci.  But he was also a thoughtful philosopher.  Leonardo reflected sadly that the average human "looks without seeing, listens without hearing, touches without feeling, eats without tasting, moves without physical awareness, inhales without awareness of odour or fragrance, and talks without thinking."  In his writings he constantly calls us to improve our senses - and our sensibility and sensitivity.

I hear repeatedly from people who are asking "What is the meaning of life?"  Leonardo da Vinci would encourage them to ask, "How can I make my life meaningful?"

Make sure you're spending time thinking - and making your life meaningful.

4     An idea that is developed and put into action is more important than an idea that exists only as an idea.
Sayings Type : Creativity  Author : Buddha

5     A thing that has no value does not exist.
Sayings Type : Living  Author : Robert M. Pirsig

6     I think that God in creating Man somewhat overestimated his ability.
Sayings Type : Funny Quotes  Author : Oscar Wilde

7     When one has the feeling of dislike for evil, when one feels tranquil, one finds pleasure in listening to good teachings; when one has these feelings and appreciates them, one is free of fear.
Sayings Type : Personality  Author : Buddha

8     Everyone has a purpose in life. Perhaps yours is watching television.
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9     Let your happiness come out of your work, or you’ll never know what happiness is.
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10     Get your happiness out of your work or you’ll never know what the happiness is.
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I’m not upset that you lied to me; I’m upset from now on I can’t believe you --- Friedrich Nietzsche

A person is never so vulnerable until they trust someone whom with the initial thought that that someone is worth to be trusted. Paradoxically, humans need an outlet to trust those surrounding them so happiness can be found. Living in a world which is filled with doubts at every corner does not guarantee one to be a happy person because every circumstance will be filled with qualms about its true motive.

To trust a person can take a very long or short time depending on the individual themselves and the level of comfort in giving all the trust varies. As humans, we tend to trust friends and others to an extent that we would love to think of them as how we want them to be. But this is a very hard task because everyone has different motives when trying to gain trust from a person. It can be bad. It can be good. Or on neutral grounds. One will never know unless he has the ability to penetrate into the minds of others.

However, when a person whom we trust faithfully and sincerely moved the wrong chess piece and creates room for mistakes and doubts the level of trust will crumble. It is not about giving second chances and even if one does how far can the trust grow again? Once trust is broken, you can fix it but it will never be the same as it was before. A metaphor such as a vase can be used --- if a vase broke and pieces are glued back together but let it be known that the vase will never be the same anymore.

When it comes to earning trust from others it won’t be difficult because the hardest part is how to preserve the amount of trust that someone has in you and not take it for granted. Not being able to be trusted easily is similar to sitting alone in a gray area where people hardly take notice of. Like the adage says; no man is an island..

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A principle is the expression of perfection, and as imperfect beings like us cannot practise perfection, we devise every moment limits of its compromise in practice.
~free inspirational quotation by Mohandas Gandhi

Stretch pants - the garment that made skiing a spectator sport.
~free by Author Unknown

I can't really remember the names of the clubs that we went to
~sayings about free by Shaquille O'Neal

No man treats a motor car as foolishly as he treats another human being. When the car will not go, he does not attribute its annoying behavior to sin, he does not say, You are a wicked motorcar, and I shall not give you any more petrol until you go. He attempts to find out what is wrong and set it right.
~quotes about Religion by Bertrand Russell, Has Religion Made Useful Contributions to Civilization?

The body is a big sagacity, a plurality with one sense, a war and a peace, a flock and a shepherd.
~free inspirational quotation by Friedrich Nietzsche

Any society that needs disclaimers has too many lawyers.
~saying on Society by Erik Pepke

Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.
~free inspirational quotation by M. Kathleen Casey

There is that in the glance of a flower which may at times control the greatest of creation's braggart lords.
~saying on Flowers by John Muir, A Thousand-Mile Walk to the Gulf, 1916

But make no mistake: the weeds will win; nature bats last.
~free inspirational quotation by Robert M. Pyle

If you meet the Buddha in the lane, feed him the ball.
~free by Phil Jackson

Punctuality is the virtue of the bored
~sayings about free by Evelyn Waugh

A law is unjust if it is inflicted on a minority that, as a result of being denied the right to vote, had no part in enacting or devising the lawWho can say that the legislature of Alabama which set up the state's segregation laws was democratically elect
~quotes about Martin Luther King, Jr. Day by Martin Luther King, Jr., "Letter from Birmingham Jail," Why We Can't Wait, 1963

It wasn't the Exxon Valdez captain's driving that caused the Alaskan oil spill. It was yours.
~free inspirational quotation by Greenpeace advertisement, New York Times, 25 February 1990

How poor are they who have no patience. First try seldom wins great success.
~sayings about patience by

How can a society that exists on instant mashed potatoes, packaged cake mixes, frozen dinners, and instant cameras teach patience to its young?
~inspirational sayings about Laziness quotes by Paul Sweeney

Nine requisites for contented living: Health enough to make work a pleasure. Wealth enough to support your needs. Strength to battle with difficulties and overcome them. Grace enough to confess your sins and forsake them. Patience enough to toil until some good is accomplished. Charity enough to see some good in your neighbor. Love enough to move you to be useful and helpful to others. Faith enough to make real the things of God. Hope enough to remove all anxious fears concerning the future
~patience quotes by Johann Wolfgang

The twin killers of success are impatience and greed.
~famous quotes about Attitude by Jim Rohn

Beware the fury of a patient man.
~patience sayings by John Dryden, Absolam and Achitophel, 1680

Patience and perseverance have a magical effect before which difficulties disappear and obstacles vanish.
~sayings about patience by John Quincy Adams

Genius is nothing but a great aptitude for patience.
~inspirational sayings about Genius quotes by George-Louis de Buffon